Nishant (hubby dear) always wanted to have a baby. He always had this magical connection with babies.
When I got a blood test done and the results confirmed that we were pregnant he was on top of the world. He couldn’t believe that it was finally happening.
He was very supportive during my pregnancy. There was never a dull moment during my pregnancy and he was there through my thick and thin. And I knew he would be there post delivery too.
He was my support system. He still is and always will be.
After my c-section I was shifted out of the OT room. They nurses said you have to wait in the recovery room for sometime before we move you to your room. I just laid there. Drained. Waiting.
Then Nishant came to see me. I was so happy to see him. The look he had in eyes made me feel that everything I’ve gone through was completely worth it. He kissed me on my forehead and told me “we did it”. “You did it”. I could already feel the strength running through my veins. I took a deep breath and told myself everything was going to be ok.
All I needed was my husband, my best friend to be there for me.
So here is a shout out to all the dads. Here a few points you can read.
Accept change! You have a new born baby in your lives. Accept the fact that there is going to be a lot of change in your routine. Your room is not going to be the same. It’s going to be flooded with baby stuff like diapers, a palna, baby wipes and a lot of other baby stuff.
Help your spouse- Your wife went through a really hard time. Be it a c-section or normal delivery. Having a baby is hard! Help her around with whatever you can. Make it easy for her. Make her feel that isn’t alone. Be there for her.
Spend time with the baby - After you come back from work you can’t just crash and do what you used to do. Spend some quality time with your baby. Play with your baby.Get to know each other. Let you baby get familiar with your smell and touch.
Talk about it- Make sure you have a conversation with your wife everyday. Talk about your day at work. Let her talk about what the baby did today. It would ease things out. Bond! Make sure you are there for each other.
Feed the baby- If the baby is bottle fed take the initiative to feed your little one. It’s such a wonderful feeling. Also give mommy dear some time to herself.
Change the diaper- Come on dad it’s just a little poop and pee. Help mommy change her diaper when needed. Make sure she is clean and dry before you put on the next diaper. Learn how to do it!
Put your baby to sleep- This is the best thing you can do for your wife. You can rock your baby to sleep. Your wife had been managing all the crying and whining all day. Give her a break. Put the baby to sleep and you can cuddle up too and sleep. You feel so good when you put your baby to sleep. You suddenly feel energized and full of life.
Hugging- A very essential part of life. A hug makes my day! My husband isn't allowed to leave the house if he doesn't give me a hug. Please hug away! It gives you strength! It's comforting. It's like a support system. It expresses your feelings. Your day is wasted if you don’t hug each other.
Doctor visits during pregnancy and post delivery are very important. You dads have to be there in both stages. Support her and be there for her. She’s as scared and freaked out as you. You both are in this together. Be there for each other. Love each other.
You dads are going to do great!!
You got this!